Married

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Recently at lunch, a guy asked if my wife and I were dating - https://x.com/flabbytofit99/status/1993311014419677484

The unspoken truth about modern marriage: we've accepted that "married" means dead inside.

No affection. No fun. Just two exhausted people managing chaos together.

But here's what he actually saw:

  1. My arm around her waist in line • Us laughing about something stupid • Actually looking at each other instead of our phones • Choosing to spend lunch TOGETHER instead of "getting a break"
  2. This isn't luck. It's not "good genetics" or "you just found the right one."
  3. It's intentional.

What we do that most couples don't:

  1. Regular dates (non-negotiable) Even if it's just a lunch during the workday. Time together without kids talking over us.
  2. Physical affection in public. Hold hands. Hug. Kiss. Don't save intimacy for the bedroom—it builds connection everywhere.
  3. Talk about US, not just logistics. We have conversations that aren't about bills, schedules, or what the kids need.
  4. I still flirt with my wife Compliment her. Make her laugh. Tease her. Don't treat her like a business partner.
  5. Protect marriage time from kid time. Our kids are important. Our marriage is THE FOUNDATION. If it crumbles, so does everything else.

Here's the hard truth:

Your marriage isn't dying because you're "too busy." - It's dying because you stopped prioritizing it.

Every time you choose Netflix over conversation. Every time you let a month pass without a real date. Every time you treat your wife like a roommate instead of your partner.

You're choosing slow death over intentional life.

16 years in, my wife and I still get mistaken for a dating couple.

Not because we're special.

Because we refuse to let "married" mean "done trying."

When's the last time you actually DATED your wife?

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